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Want to Help Your Teen Cut Back on Social Media? Start With This One Question

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May 27, 2025
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Delaney Ruston, MD
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Do you know a teen or young adult who wishes they didn’t spend so much time on social media—who’s tried to cut back but finds it really tough? Many teens are in this exact boat. I see it all the time in my clinic, in my home, and at screenings of the four Screenagers films.

Recently, a mom asked me if there was anything out there to help her daughter reduce screen time, because her daughter wanted help. The truth is, there aren’t many structured programs for teens—but I was excited to tell her about a free, peer-led initiative I co-created with the Screenagers team, shaped by input from dozens of teens. It’s designed to help young people support each other in making healthier screen choices. It can be started as a new club or easily integrated into an existing one. Curious? Head to Boostingbravery.com.

But I still wanted to offer this mom’s daughter, and everyone interested, some tools right away to help be able to pull back. So I decided to create a podcast episode with a thoughtful researcher whose work offers valuable insights that address just that. 

In today’s blog, I’m sharing insights from that episode along with one action step, in the form of a brilliant little question that we can pose to ourselves before clicking on an app.

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Ever opened social media because you were feeling bored, only to feel even more bored afterwards? You’re not alone—research shows this is a common experience. In our latest Parenting in the Screen Age episode, Katie Davis, PhD, a leading expert on teens and technology, shares surprising findings from her recent study on teen Instagram use.

Dr. Davis is a professor at the University of Washington’s Information School, co-director of the UW Digital Youth Lab, and the author of numerous studies and three books exploring how technology impacts young people’s learning, development, and mental health.

One of the most striking findings from her research? Teens who scroll out of boredom often report feeling more bored afterward. Davis calls this “boredom in, boredom out.”

But it’s not just about boredom. How teens engage on social media makes a huge difference. Davis found that when teens use apps with intention — like messaging a friend, posting something meaningful, or searching for specific content — they tend to feel more positive emotions, such as confidence, pride, and gratitude. On the other hand, passive scrolling (watching Reels, browsing feeds) often leaves them feeling flat or even worse.

The episode explores how a simple shift in mindset—adding intentionality—can transform screen time. One powerful takeaway? Before opening an app, ask yourself: “What will I do afterwards?” That pause and question can make a big difference.

Want to help teens make healthier digital choices? Have them listen to the podcast episode with you. It is packed with research, practical tools, and real-life reflections—including one from a college student navigating her own Instagram habits. 

Conversation starters:

  1. Is there any type of screen time we’d like to cut back on?
  2. How often do we open an app or website because we’re bored?
  3. Have we ever felt more bored afterwards?
  4. Is it conscious boredom that drives us to click—or just habit?

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Do you know a teen or young adult who wishes they didn’t spend so much time on social media—who’s tried to cut back but finds it really tough? Many teens are in this exact boat. I see it all the time in my clinic, in my home, and at screenings of the four Screenagers films.

Recently, a mom asked me if there was anything out there to help her daughter reduce screen time, because her daughter wanted help. The truth is, there aren’t many structured programs for teens—but I was excited to tell her about a free, peer-led initiative I co-created with the Screenagers team, shaped by input from dozens of teens. It’s designed to help young people support each other in making healthier screen choices. It can be started as a new club or easily integrated into an existing one. Curious? Head to Boostingbravery.com.

But I still wanted to offer this mom’s daughter, and everyone interested, some tools right away to help be able to pull back. So I decided to create a podcast episode with a thoughtful researcher whose work offers valuable insights that address just that. 

In today’s blog, I’m sharing insights from that episode along with one action step, in the form of a brilliant little question that we can pose to ourselves before clicking on an app.

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Dr. Davis is a professor at the University of Washington’s Information School, co-director of the UW Digital Youth Lab, and the author of numerous studies and three books exploring how technology impacts young people’s learning, development, and mental health.

One of the most striking findings from her research? Teens who scroll out of boredom often report feeling more bored afterward. Davis calls this “boredom in, boredom out.”

But it’s not just about boredom. How teens engage on social media makes a huge difference. Davis found that when teens use apps with intention — like messaging a friend, posting something meaningful, or searching for specific content — they tend to feel more positive emotions, such as confidence, pride, and gratitude. On the other hand, passive scrolling (watching Reels, browsing feeds) often leaves them feeling flat or even worse.

The episode explores how a simple shift in mindset—adding intentionality—can transform screen time. One powerful takeaway? Before opening an app, ask yourself: “What will I do afterwards?” That pause and question can make a big difference.

Want to help teens make healthier digital choices? Have them listen to the podcast episode with you. It is packed with research, practical tools, and real-life reflections—including one from a college student navigating her own Instagram habits. 

Conversation starters:

  1. Is there any type of screen time we’d like to cut back on?
  2. How often do we open an app or website because we’re bored?
  3. Have we ever felt more bored afterwards?
  4. Is it conscious boredom that drives us to click—or just habit?

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Do you know a teen or young adult who wishes they didn’t spend so much time on social media—who’s tried to cut back but finds it really tough? Many teens are in this exact boat. I see it all the time in my clinic, in my home, and at screenings of the four Screenagers films.

Recently, a mom asked me if there was anything out there to help her daughter reduce screen time, because her daughter wanted help. The truth is, there aren’t many structured programs for teens—but I was excited to tell her about a free, peer-led initiative I co-created with the Screenagers team, shaped by input from dozens of teens. It’s designed to help young people support each other in making healthier screen choices. It can be started as a new club or easily integrated into an existing one. Curious? Head to Boostingbravery.com.

But I still wanted to offer this mom’s daughter, and everyone interested, some tools right away to help be able to pull back. So I decided to create a podcast episode with a thoughtful researcher whose work offers valuable insights that address just that. 

In today’s blog, I’m sharing insights from that episode along with one action step, in the form of a brilliant little question that we can pose to ourselves before clicking on an app.

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