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Holiday Drinking & Parental Modeling: What Kids Need to See

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December 9, 2025
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Delaney Ruston, MD
Lisa Tabb
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In Summary

Media featuring alcohol abounds in young people’s lives.

Check out this short film clip from Screenagers Under The Influence to see what I mean:

How do we counter the unhealthy and untrue messages they get?

I have been thinking more about this since it is the holiday season, when gatherings with alcohol are common. 

I offer 5 ideas today for topics to raise and for how to model alcohol use during holiday festivities, whether you yourself drink or not.

1: Share with teens that adults often are misinformed about alcohol

This is a very effective communication technique with teens because it shines a spotlight on fallibility in the adult world. Let them know that only 37% of adults know that alcohol raises the risk of many types of cancers. 

Ask if they can guess which ones show a statistically significant link to alcohol. The main ones: liver, breast, colorectal, esophageal, and oral cancers.


Understanding that a behaviour carries a serious health risk is often the catalyst for change. That’s why it’s essential that every adult is aware of alcohol's link to cancer…only then can people make informed choices about their health.

2. Discuss with kids this study

It found that teens who see friends posting about alcohol are more likely to start drinking, partly because it makes them think drinking is normal and accepted.

Here is the study in brief:

Researchers surveyed 658 high school students twice, one year apart.

The students reported:

  • Whether they posted alcohol-related content on social media

  • Whether their friends posted alcohol-related content

  • How much they thought their peers approved of drinking

  • Other factors that affect teen drinking, like how much their parents monitor them and how focused they are on peers

The study also identified why exposure to alcohol-related posts led to real-life drinking: seeing those posts made teens believe their peers approve of drinking.

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3: Rotate with water by using the same glass for an alcoholic drink as for water 

Friends were over the other night for dinner; he was from Belgium, and she was from the US.

They brought a bottle of wine, and each poured themselves a glass. When they finished, they said, “Let’s rotate with water.”  They then used the same glass and filled it with water. 

I asked if they did this whenever they drink wine, and they said, yep. 

If you drink, consider doing something like that when kids or teens are around, and say out loud why you’re doing it. For example:

“I'm going to switch to water for a bit because it gives my body time to fully metabolize the alcohol I just had. Our bodies can only process a small amount of alcohol each hour, so taking breaks helps us feel better now and later.”

4.  A science-backed strategy teens can use to handle alcohol offers more confidently

Research by Emily Falk, featured on Hidden Brain’s It’s Not My Fault episode, shows that when students imagined how a lower-drinking friend would behave, they ended up drinking less themselves.

It suggests that one of the simplest ways to make a wiser choice is to step outside ourselves for a moment and ask, “What would someone I admire do in this situation?”

5. Talk about non-alcoholic options.

Non-alcoholic beers, wines, and mocktails are all the rage right now and that’s a really good thing. More and more adults are choosing alcohol-free options, especially non-alcoholic beer, and it’s great to see the trend gaining momentum.

Bringing bubbly water, sparkling apple juice, or other festive alcohol-free drinks is another awesome move. Just last night, I brought a few bottles of sparkling water to a friend’s birthday party, and they were all gone in a couple of hours.

These simple choices help normalize the idea that celebrations don’t need alcohol; joy, connection, and good company are what truly make a moment special.

Questions to get the conversation started:

  1. What images of alcohol have people been seeing in their media feeds?
  2. What are everyone’s thoughts about the studies above?
  3. What are some favorite non-alcoholic drinks to have during celebrations? (Sparkly pomegranate juice, anyone?)

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Media featuring alcohol abounds in young people’s lives.

Check out this short film clip from Screenagers Under The Influence to see what I mean:

How do we counter the unhealthy and untrue messages they get?

I have been thinking more about this since it is the holiday season, when gatherings with alcohol are common. 

I offer 5 ideas today for topics to raise and for how to model alcohol use during holiday festivities, whether you yourself drink or not.

1: Share with teens that adults often are misinformed about alcohol

This is a very effective communication technique with teens because it shines a spotlight on fallibility in the adult world. Let them know that only 37% of adults know that alcohol raises the risk of many types of cancers. 

Ask if they can guess which ones show a statistically significant link to alcohol. The main ones: liver, breast, colorectal, esophageal, and oral cancers.


Understanding that a behaviour carries a serious health risk is often the catalyst for change. That’s why it’s essential that every adult is aware of alcohol's link to cancer…only then can people make informed choices about their health.

2. Discuss with kids this study

It found that teens who see friends posting about alcohol are more likely to start drinking, partly because it makes them think drinking is normal and accepted.

Here is the study in brief:

Researchers surveyed 658 high school students twice, one year apart.

The students reported:

  • Whether they posted alcohol-related content on social media

  • Whether their friends posted alcohol-related content

  • How much they thought their peers approved of drinking

  • Other factors that affect teen drinking, like how much their parents monitor them and how focused they are on peers

The study also identified why exposure to alcohol-related posts led to real-life drinking: seeing those posts made teens believe their peers approve of drinking.

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3: Rotate with water by using the same glass for an alcoholic drink as for water 

Friends were over the other night for dinner; he was from Belgium, and she was from the US.

They brought a bottle of wine, and each poured themselves a glass. When they finished, they said, “Let’s rotate with water.”  They then used the same glass and filled it with water. 

I asked if they did this whenever they drink wine, and they said, yep. 

If you drink, consider doing something like that when kids or teens are around, and say out loud why you’re doing it. For example:

“I'm going to switch to water for a bit because it gives my body time to fully metabolize the alcohol I just had. Our bodies can only process a small amount of alcohol each hour, so taking breaks helps us feel better now and later.”

4.  A science-backed strategy teens can use to handle alcohol offers more confidently

Research by Emily Falk, featured on Hidden Brain’s It’s Not My Fault episode, shows that when students imagined how a lower-drinking friend would behave, they ended up drinking less themselves.

It suggests that one of the simplest ways to make a wiser choice is to step outside ourselves for a moment and ask, “What would someone I admire do in this situation?”

5. Talk about non-alcoholic options.

Non-alcoholic beers, wines, and mocktails are all the rage right now and that’s a really good thing. More and more adults are choosing alcohol-free options, especially non-alcoholic beer, and it’s great to see the trend gaining momentum.

Bringing bubbly water, sparkling apple juice, or other festive alcohol-free drinks is another awesome move. Just last night, I brought a few bottles of sparkling water to a friend’s birthday party, and they were all gone in a couple of hours.

These simple choices help normalize the idea that celebrations don’t need alcohol; joy, connection, and good company are what truly make a moment special.

Questions to get the conversation started:

  1. What images of alcohol have people been seeing in their media feeds?
  2. What are everyone’s thoughts about the studies above?
  3. What are some favorite non-alcoholic drinks to have during celebrations? (Sparkly pomegranate juice, anyone?)

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Holiday Drinking & Parental Modeling: What Kids Need to See

Delaney Ruston, MD
December 9, 2025

Media featuring alcohol abounds in young people’s lives.

Check out this short film clip from Screenagers Under The Influence to see what I mean:

How do we counter the unhealthy and untrue messages they get?

I have been thinking more about this since it is the holiday season, when gatherings with alcohol are common. 

I offer 5 ideas today for topics to raise and for how to model alcohol use during holiday festivities, whether you yourself drink or not.

1: Share with teens that adults often are misinformed about alcohol

This is a very effective communication technique with teens because it shines a spotlight on fallibility in the adult world. Let them know that only 37% of adults know that alcohol raises the risk of many types of cancers. 

Ask if they can guess which ones show a statistically significant link to alcohol. The main ones: liver, breast, colorectal, esophageal, and oral cancers.


Understanding that a behaviour carries a serious health risk is often the catalyst for change. That’s why it’s essential that every adult is aware of alcohol's link to cancer…only then can people make informed choices about their health.

2. Discuss with kids this study

It found that teens who see friends posting about alcohol are more likely to start drinking, partly because it makes them think drinking is normal and accepted.

Here is the study in brief:

Researchers surveyed 658 high school students twice, one year apart.

The students reported:

  • Whether they posted alcohol-related content on social media

  • Whether their friends posted alcohol-related content

  • How much they thought their peers approved of drinking

  • Other factors that affect teen drinking, like how much their parents monitor them and how focused they are on peers

The study also identified why exposure to alcohol-related posts led to real-life drinking: seeing those posts made teens believe their peers approve of drinking.

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