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Do as we say, not as we do?

Delaney Ruston, MD
April 11, 2016

TECH TALK TUESDAY #10
DO YOU FOLLOW YOUR OWN RULES?

I know often kids feel like we adults have double standards. We say one thing, but we don’t do it. We set rules for kids but don’t have rules for ourselves. In our morning drive, for example, my kids and I often notice adults texting while on the road to school or near a school. At restaurants, we see lots adults on their devices during dinner, not just the kids. I can be guilty of breaking my own rules, checking a screen to distract myself from a task I’m having a hard time completing, or staying up much later than I meant to, checking “just one more thing.”

Here are some questions to ask your kids this week for Tech Talk Tuesday to help start a conversation about modeling:

How do you see me interacting with my screens?

Do you think I have rules for myself about my own screen use (like about when or how much I think it’s okay to do screen-based activities)?

Should I make guidelines for myself?

Should guidelines for parents be the same or different as guidelines for the kids?

Do you think adults spend more time on screens than you or less than you?

How do you feel about how I use my mobile devices — when, how much, and why?

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Here is a video from the Screenagers YouTube Channel that talks more about this subject

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Parenting Resources

Do as we say, not as we do?

Delaney Ruston, MD
April 11, 2016

TECH TALK TUESDAY #10
DO YOU FOLLOW YOUR OWN RULES?

I know often kids feel like we adults have double standards. We say one thing, but we don’t do it. We set rules for kids but don’t have rules for ourselves. In our morning drive, for example, my kids and I often notice adults texting while on the road to school or near a school. At restaurants, we see lots adults on their devices during dinner, not just the kids. I can be guilty of breaking my own rules, checking a screen to distract myself from a task I’m having a hard time completing, or staying up much later than I meant to, checking “just one more thing.”

Here are some questions to ask your kids this week for Tech Talk Tuesday to help start a conversation about modeling:

How do you see me interacting with my screens?

Do you think I have rules for myself about my own screen use (like about when or how much I think it’s okay to do screen-based activities)?

Should I make guidelines for myself?

Should guidelines for parents be the same or different as guidelines for the kids?

Do you think adults spend more time on screens than you or less than you?

How do you feel about how I use my mobile devices — when, how much, and why?

Photo by Design Pics/Design Pics / Getty Images

Here is a video from the Screenagers YouTube Channel that talks more about this subject

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